Simple yet complicated in its ways this very quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson made me think about the person whose happiness I keep ignoring. The person whose happiness is the sole reason of my existence – I, me and myself. It may sound quiet selfish to you but the fact is if you are keeping your own happiness at stake you can’t be what you want to be to the people , to the world and to yourself. So stop being a rat in this corporate mad race instead pause for a while, click the rewind button and recall what all you have missed or lost till now. When you look back, you may see a lot of pain, and a lot of bad experiences but don’t forget it’s these experiences that have helped you to be the person you are today.
A long time back I came to know of a fact through my biology teacher that when you are angry your 40 facial muscles need to work while it’s just 12 muscle effort, it all takes when you are smiling. Have you have ever pondered on it in this way?
A small little frown on your forehead when your subordinate is not able to deliver what you expected out of him or her or a displeasure feelings when you have to cancel your planned trip on last-minute due to some urgency in office, or an angry look when somebody don’t understand your point of view would affect you in such a strong way. We often ignore our feelings and don’t pay attention to what exactly could be the consequences of such a neglected attitude.
These emoticons just showcase one of the few faces you make when you are boiling inside from anger. So, next time when you feel angry just rush to checkout yourself in the mirror. And I m sure you will definitely not fall in love with that face of yours.
Living life full of anger doesn’t do anything for us but waste our own time and energy that could be much better spent if focused on something else more productive. Sometimes it is very hard to escape the fact that we are angry, and that we want things in a certain way, and that we wished we would have made better decisions in our pasts. But tell me how correct is it to tie yourself to the things that are long gone or to the moments that won’t return back irrespective of how hard you may try. So “Accept the people and situations as they are and take appropriate action”.
With time I have come to realize that making yourself happy is most important. Never be ashamed of what you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion that you want, and to do what makes you happy. We all want to be happy. It’s just that different people define happiness in different ways. For some buying an expensive thing for themselves is happiness, for some eating at good food joint make them happy, for some it is just their well-being that it all takes to smile and for others happiness is a way of life. And happiness is nothing but a state of our mind. Remember the quality of your life depends upon state of your mind. I believe there is no one who wants to degrade the quality of their lives. So control your state of mind. You know there is very beautiful quote in Bhagavad Gita which says “The truly admirable man controls his senses by the power of his will”.
So now you may ask me how to control our state of my mind?
One way to achieve happiness on a daily basis is to learn not to take things personally. Don’t let someone else’s negativity take away from your positive energy and joy. Ignore another’s personal attacks and innuendos. Admire those who hate you because they give you the reason to check your actions but love those who criticize you as they give you the reason to do what once you thought was impossible.
Next is not everyone we encounter in our day-to-day lives is a happy person. Try to know yourself truly on the inside and out because it will give you a better understanding of what triggers you may need to avoid or surround yourself with to maintain your happiness. Having the right attitude and surrounding yourself with positive people is a great way to maintain your own happiness. Once you have become a master of your own personal happiness, making others happy will come naturally. Always remember that just being happy is something that we all can do. Often times we look at the things we don’t have and we complain, instead of being grateful for the life that we already have, and the fact that our lives will always have the potential to get better.
We always cribs for things we don’t have and focus on things like how high gas prices are, instead of the fact that we are fortunate to have a car, since not everyone is as fortunate as us to have one. Instead of seeing the wrong, or the shorter side of each situation, try to see the cup as half full. Eventually there will be a time when you realize that it is the times that you struggled that made your life worth living.
And if all the above talks look like mere philosophy than see this:
Which one of the below you want to be?
An angry bird that every one want to shoot at sight
Or a happy fella with whom every one wants to spend time with.
The choice is all yours buddy.
There is something I would like to add-on in this piece. And hope it may help you.
Don’t let your anger rule your life, because if you choose to do so, your life will never truly be enriched, for all of the anger inside of you will only kill any drive that you have that may be directing you towards your calling, and achieving real success in your life.
When you start to feel angry, remember why you are living. Think about your dreams and all of the people who may be blessed by seeing you achieve the things in life that you desire to, and then think of how selfish it is for you not to continue to strive for your dreams because of how angry you are. Stop wasting your time being angry, and live your life.
Stay happy stay blessed 🙂