Loosing Someone to Cancer

Today is World Cancer Day, and since morning I have been reading articles on cancer, stories by cancer survivors, and experiences of the people who have lost someone to cancer.

I thought I too should share something that is very personal regarding this disease.

My Father was ten years old when he lost his mother to cancer. For the longest time, no one even knew what she was suffering from; people just said she was very ill. At the age of 10 years, my dad turned from a kid to the man of the house. My Grandad used to work out of the city, and my father was the eldest among his sibling. His childhood memories are very vague, the thing he remembers about his mother is her smiling face even at the time of her death. He worked hard, doing household tasks to taking care of his two younger sisters. But losing his mother at that tender age changed something in him, forever. My uncle’s and aunts say that they don’t remember my father ever playing, he was always either working or studying. He shunned himself down emotionally, and this still is a problem with him. He still doesn’t know how to process his emotions, and he always fumbles in hypersensitive moments. Most of the time he gets super stressed out if someone gets too emotional in front of him. He is only one amongst us who finds hugging very uncomfortable. Sometimes I try to imagine, how different my father would have been as a person if he wouldn’t have lost his mother at such a young age. But such is life, not fair, yet we try to make the best out of it.

I have seen my friends losing their parents to cancer, and I see my colleague going to therapies with her mother for bone marrow cancer, even while knowing that its just about adding few more days to her diminishing life. I see them facing the challenge heads on, like my colleague once told me, that the only key is to make each day as it comes and stop thinking about the future. Each chemotherapy could be your last chance at life. Life is not easy both for the patient and their family. Even if you have all the medical facilities available for you, yet you can lose your loved one to this disease.

I read books on cancer by people who suffered, yet nothing comes close to seeing someone lose their loved one to the disease. Today, on this day, I want people to keep the hope alive, the only thing you can do for someone who is suffering or someone whose loved one his suffering, is to be there for them, listen to their stories and pain. Give them a warm hug and a shoulder to cry.

Be kind to everyone, and you never know what pain the other person is going through right now.

To read more about World Cancer Day, you can check this site out here.

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17 thoughts on “Loosing Someone to Cancer

  1. yes I have lost friends to cancer since childhood but I have recovered from cancer … I think it’s very important to remember that many of us have treatment and get healthy again. Cancer does not necessarily mean death 😎

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