Birthday wishes for the courageous girl

“Sometimes just saying Happy Birthday isn’t enough “

Today is my beautiful friend, with a wonderful heart ❤ and pure soul ❤ Jennifer aka the beauty behind the blog Courage Coach’s birthday. So I am going to share our journey being friends.

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So one day on 15th October 2015, I saw a message notification on my blog series Summer Diary by this charismatic lady 🙂 Here is the first comment she left on my blog.

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She arrived on the 8th chapter of the series and she bowled me with her interest in my blog by reading all the previous chapter of that series on the same day. Her each comment was much warmer than the previous one 🙂 It’s there she took my heart way with her magnanimous nature and generosity.

We started off with as WP friends, then one day she asked me whether I could fit myself in her Indian travel diaries 🙂 I happily obliged and she came to visit me in Pune. I can never forget the day I first met, she arrived around at 10 pm at her hotel and I was waiting for her call, she called me and ran off with my hubby on her super bike 😀 to meet her. I remember, how warm her first hug was 🙂 Jenny you have most kind eyes 🙂 Your eyes are the mirror to your soul. We had a blasting weekend 🙂 Jen you were sport 🙂 eating all my homemade Indian dishes and praising me for it 😀

We were like house on fire 🙂 two loquacious people sharing their life, experiences and cultural differences. It was such an insightful meeting ❤ From then on we keep each other updated with our life through WhatsApp IMs 🙂 and sometimes we catch up with each other through skype calls 🙂

 

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Jen and Me ❤ on her last trip to India in Jan 2016

Today on your special day honey I would love to thank you for all the love that you shower on me ❤ For treating me as an mature person and asking for my advice on crucial matters of your life 🙂 (It matters a lot to me cause these are the side effect of being the youngest child in the family :P) . I love you for being you with me ❤ I love you for discussing book, people, food and life with me 🙂 It’s fun to have such a loving person in your life 🙂

On this birthday I wish you all the success for your upcoming book 🙂 A stronger heart to deal with all small issues in your life 🙂 And hell lot more people to fall in love with you madly, deeply and truly ❤

Here is your bday cake honey ❤

 

 

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PS : We will celebrate your bday once we meet in feburary ❤ Looking forward to a blasting time with you ❤

PPS: Have a awesom day with kids 🙂 I know they will love the plans you have made 😉

What you don’t know??

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When a few moments ago, she burst into loud laughter,

People around her thought, she is blissfully happy.

What you don’t know, is that the night before, she has spent sobbing, for her lost mother.

She married the guy of her parents’ choice,

All of their friends thought, she ditched him for a better guy.

What you don’t know, is that the guy never agreed for a committed relationship, it was she who kept relying on him, thinking her love will make him think otherwise.

She entered into room as if she owns it,

Stirring the souls around her, making them feel nervous.

What you don’t know, is that she don’t want you to look into her eyes and know about her anthropophobia.

Tears welled up in her eyes while reading an email,

Everyone looked at her with sympathy, thinking that she might have received a break up apology from her partner.

What you don’t know, is that she has been finally admitted to her dream university on a scholarship for masters.

She was crowned as the Most Desirable women of the country,

The young crowd looked at her with awe and wonder.

What you don’t know, is that she was left outside a church, an undesirable girl child, by her own parents.

She was being prosecuted for the murder of her husband.

The angry mob was pelting stones on her for the heinous crime, they thought she had committed.

What you don’t know, is that she caught her husband trying to rape their 10-year-old daughter, to protect her child, she took the life of the man she once loved.

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PS: Don’t ever judge people on your assumptions,never ever. You can never understand someone’s struggle or story until you wear their shoes.

To the woman, who changed my life

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“However, how tightly you shut the door, there are some people who just walk in and change your life forever.”

This is how you entered in my life, breaking the walls, I erected, with so much zeal, to protect myself from getting hurt.

I can never forgot the day I first met you. How apprehensive we were, just talking for formality and not even making an eye-contact. I being the judgmental one, found you quite dull and boring, you on the another hand found me arrogant and unkind. It took us a whole month to accept our existence in each others life.

The seed of friendship got sown when our first internal examination date, unexpectedly stung us. Unprepared and alarmed, I found solace in your company. I can vividly recall that barren common room with a brown leather sofa sitting in the corner and a small gray television mounted on a small table. Each day we use to sit in different sections of the room by dragging that sofa in diverse directions according to our moods. We studied less and chatted more, making that room our temporary home.

For the first time in my life, I decided to go for common studies as that was my only chance to clear mathematics examination. I can never forgot, how seriously you took the role of a teacher. How perfect you were in your job, taking me through those horrendous mathematics lanes. Alas! I was of no help to you in computers as you were already good in it.

In middle of these examinations my first hostel birthday came and you never left my side on that day. You always took it on yourself to make my special day more special. My each birthday, that I spent with you,was splendid than the last one. You have a talent of making feel beautiful inside out.

Do you remember, how we started our beautiful ritual of having meals from same dish.

How, while standing on those long queues of hostel mess once, the idea to share the food from same plate struck us. That small idea became a habit. Never ever, we dared to break our beautiful custom, not even, outside our hostel premises.

Sometimes when I sit alone and ponder, the flashback takes me to those nights where we use to carp about every single person we knew in our college. How much fun it was, to be our real selves with each other. Those beautiful moon lit nights where sitting on those yellow balcony walls, we weaved dreams of our future. The fantasy world where everything would be of our choice. You know, I still linger on that memory where one day you lovingly promised me that no matter what, our friendship will last longer than us.

You know what was the best part of our friendship, that no matter how huge our differences may be, how shitty we had fought, how strongly, we may have disagreed, but in the end, we always found a way back.

The three years of our togetherness passed so quickly and even before we could realize, the depth of our love, the time came, to move over to a new destination. Destiny took us in different directions, yet no one ever came close to what you were to me. People entered in our lives and left, every time strengthening our relation, making us believe nobody would fit into our shoes.

We evolved together from girls to women, from daughters to wives, from friends to best friends. When I look back at my college life, I find many small regrets but I neglect them all because if I haven’t ended up in that college I would have never known that a friend like you and a friendship like ours could exist in this mortal world.

Now when we are a decade old, we are in different stages of life, we talk not that often, meet rarely but still when I think of a friend, you still top that list. It’s you who taught me the real meaning of friendship. It’s you who showed me that friend’s could be selfless. It’s you who revealed it to me that you can put your friend’s interest before yours. It’s you whom I still need in my low times. And I know, it will always be you.

PS : Darling this my token of love for being my best friend for a decade and ever.

Yours loving best friend

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Quote Challenge – Day Three

I have been nominated for 3 Day Quote Challenge by Deepika , She is published author of Dance Dream and two days ago her new book Ethereal : The Dawn of the Blue from her Ethereal series  got released on kindle and the paperback is out in USA. She is one of my closest blogger friend , who never seizes from motivating me to write more🙂

Thank you so much❤ for pushing me to come out of my laziness shackles and take up this challenge.

My theme for this challenge is quotes on women by some really phenomenal women around the world. I took up this theme because currently in India, we are observing Navratri  a festival dedicated to the worship of the Hindu deity Durga.

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Here are my three favourite quotes for the day🙂

No one knows what you have been through or what your pretty little eyes have seen, but I can reassure you ~ whatever you have conquered, it shines through your mind.”
Nikki Rowe

“Everything is within your power,
and your power is within you.”
Janice Trachtman

“She made broken look beautiful
and strong look invincible.
She walked with the Universe
on her shoulders and made it
look like a pair of wings.”
Ariana Dancu

PS : Please people don’t forget to grab your copy of the first installment of this fantastic series🙂 I am reading mine right now😀 you go read yours 🙂

Quote Challenge – Day Two

I have been nominated for 3 Day Quote Challenge by Deepika , She is published author of Dance Dream and yesterday her new book Ethereal : The Dawn of the Blue from her series  got released on kindle and the paperback is out in USA. She is one of my closest blogger friend , who never seizes from motivating me to write more🙂

Thank you so much❤ for pushing me to come out of my laziness shackles and take up this challenge.

My theme for this challenge is quotes on women by some really phenomenal women around the world. I took up this theme because currently in India, we are observing Navratri  a festival dedicated to the worship of the Hindu deity Durga.

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Here are my three favourite quotes for the day🙂

  • I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
    Charlotte Brontë
  • The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who’s going to stop me.”Ayn Rand
  • A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.” — Diane Mariechild

PS : Please people don’t forget to grab your copy of the first installment of this fantastic series 🙂 I am reading mine right now 😀 you go read yours 😉

Quote Challenge – Day One

I have been nominated for 3 Day Quote Challenge by Deepika , She is published author of Dance Dream and is currently writing her new book series. She is one of my closest blogger friend , who never seizes from motivating me to write more 🙂

Thank you so much ❤ for pushing me to come out of my laziness shackles and take up this challenge.

My theme for this challenge is quotes on women by some really phenomenal women around the world. I took up this theme because currently in India, we are observing Navratri  a festival dedicated to the worship of the Hindu deity Durga.

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Here are my three favorite quotes for the day 🙂

  • “A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”
    Coco Chanel
  • “I hate men who are afraid of women’s strength.”
    Anaïs Nin
  • “Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
    Shannon L. Alder

A tiny step towards the world of literature

“Your life is enriched with meaning when allow yourself to become inspired, set goals, and charge after them with passion.”
Julie Connor

Its one thing to admire something from a far end, while its totally different thing to enter the long cherished domain and examine things first handily . Being a book lover, it was my long desire to attend a literary festival sometime. The opportunities to do so never came until yesterday. I recently started following a local FM Facebook page as they have started a poetry slam. But I never got any response from them except one asking for my personal number where they never bothered to call.

I knew that around September, a literary festival is conducted in my city, but I never bothered to search for it in details. So day before yesterday, I saw a facebook update on local FM page regarding the ongoing literary festival, I got excited checked the details and realized it was being conducted in a nearby place and 4th September that happens to be yesterday, was the last day of the festival. I checked the program details and got excited by seeing the event list.

I left my home around 1.30 pm and reached the venue by 2pm. I realized the program that I so dearly wanted to attend has already been started, and the auditorium was overcrowded, I persuaded the guy outside the auditorium to let me go in saying I would be occupy so less of a space. He denied at first saying he can’t as other people who were standing out would also like to join me. I made a puppy face and said please, see there is no one around us, so no one will know that you let me in. He looked around for a while and opened the gate stealthy and let me in. Their I entered in the literary world and attended my first ever Literary Festival in Pune called Pune International Literary Festival 2016.

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My Attendee Identity Card

It was a session “Yours truly with Prasoon Joshi(Rajeev Masand in conversation with Prasoon Joshi).” I have admired him a lot specially for his touching poetry. There I was listening live to one of the most famous lyricist , film writer and poet of my country.

I couldn’t click his photograph as I was in standing in crowd where we couldn’t see him bare eye and had to look at the screens for the same. It was one of most beautiful session I attended where he talked about his journey, people who influenced him, gender equality and poetry recital.

The next session was “Roast- Ashwin Sanghi”, though it was never a real roast as the author is not a controversial person. He is one of the best seller of our country belonging to mystery genre. I have read few of his books and they are quite good too. He has often been referred as Dan Brown of India. Nevertheless the session was quite entertaining as the author talked about his 47 rejections by different publication houses until he made it to the best seller list.

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Ashwin sanghi signing his books for fans

The third session was “Crime Time : The will , Thrill and Drill of the author”(with Avirook Sen, Neeraj Kumar, Mark Manuel and Helen Smith, moderated by Piyush Jha).

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All the authors in conversation with piyush jha(from left to right – Neeraj Kumar, Helen Smith, Piyush Jha, Avirook Sen and Mark Manuel)

This was very knowledge enhancing session as three of the authors were somehow related to crime time. Neeraj Kumar was an ex-IAS officer while Avirook and Manuel belonged to crime journalism. On the other hand we had Helen Smith a London based author who writes fictional crime stories while the moderator Piyush Jha is fictional thriller writer who is also a film writer and director.

The session highlighted the difference between the real and fictional crime. How it is solved in real life and what are the challenges the writer faces when they talk about the truth in their books. How cautious they have to be in bringing out the facts in their books. How they have to draw line where they have to put enough on a reader’s plate but not sufficient enough for the people to get the real culprits and identities.

After this session wandered outside for a quick break of snacks and coffee, looking at the book stalls. I didn’t bought any book from their because of two reasons, one I forgot carry enough cash to indulge in it and secondly I am overloaded with my To-Read list.

I also attended last few minutes of a session of “Archie in your life”(Siddhartha Jain in conversation with Co-CEO of Archie Comics – Nancy Silberkleit) where they talked about how the archie comics concept came 77 years ago and how after her husband’s sudden demise she has to take over his role and how fascinated she became with Archie’s world. How Archie has been one of the most famous comic strip and comics of all times in the world.

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Sidhartha Jain with Co-CEO Archie Comic Nancy Silberkleit

The last and the most awaited session of this year’s literary festival was “Yours truly Anupam Kher”.

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Anupam Kher in conversation with Ashok Chopra

Anupam kher is one of the most famous Bollywood actor, theatre artist , motivation speaker and most importantly an author. He is the man who is a born optimist and truly believes in “Kuch Bhi Ho Sakta Hai”(If this can happen then anything can happen) philosophy. He talked about his struggle for niche in Bollywood industry, his humble background , his teachings from his parents and grandparents. His love for his craft and his die hard love for his country.

He ended the session one of my favourite poem by one of most loved poet of our nation Harivansh Rai Bachchan

लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती
हिम्मत करने वालों की हार नहीं होती

नन्ही चींटी जब दाना लेकर चलती है
चढ़ती दीवारों पर सौ बार फिसलती है
मन का विश्वास रगों में साहस भरता है
चढ़ कर गिरना, गिर कर चढ़ना न अखरता है
आखिर उसकी मेहनत बेकार नहीं होती
कोशिश करने वालों की हार नहीं होती

The English translation for the same goes by :

The boat that qualms the waves
Never gets across
The mind that dreads and dares
Has never been at loss
The tiny ant, when it carries the grain
Lays it up into the heights of the wall
Falls slipping a hundred times,
Just as it tries again
The faith in the mind
Stirs courage in the nerves
It soars and slips, then slips and soars again
Until its efforts have not been in vain

The one who tries,Never fails.

PS : So tell me when was the first time you attended a literary festival or attended a book launch or joined a community for book lover or anything that marked your first step in getting out of your cocoon.

The Path To Glory

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A small step, on a long staircase

Charming red single rose, adding beauty to the vacant vase.

One stick, adding weight to a faggot.

The house fly, trying to come out of a maggot.

A lone candle, tearing the veil of darkness.

Helping us, in clearing all the past murkiness.

A single stitch, saving the grace.

The last-minute entry, can bring you back in the race.

A little finger to hold on to,

Making a dying relationship, fresh and new.

A colourful bead, can beautify the plain necklace.

Just greet people with a warm embrace.

A new spice, can change the taste.

Do something in this life, it’s not to waste.

That’s how dreams turn into wonderful reality.

Just take a simple step, leaving behind all the vanity.

For the man I call… DADY

There’s something like a line of gold thread running through a man’s words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself.
John Gregory Brown

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It’s often said that daughter’s take after their father. I took after mine.

Our story started from the time I was in the making, in my mother’s womb. My father was not in favour of having a second child, he thought that its important to give a single child all they can , rather than dividing that among two. But when my mother decided to go ahead with her pregnancy he didn’t stop her.

Things started changing when my presence became visible to his eyes. The day he laid his eyes on me, I become his favourite.

Our first resemblance is our looks, I had his eyes, his colour, his jaw and his smile. An exact replica of him. People who have never seen me before, recognize me at once as his daughter. I have always been regarded as his daughter.

Our bond doesn’t stop over our looks, it goes much deeper than banyan roots. We agree, we disagree more. We love, we fight a little more. We are funny in our own ways. Two adamant , stubborn duo who love each other immensely and take pride calling each other father and daughter.

My father is an impatient teacher, I am a moody student. So our life has been a sweet and sour tale.

He has a peculiar way of showing his love. And it took me 25 years to understand this love of his.

When I was a little girl, my father’s lap was my second home. I use to eat there, sleep there and laugh there. As I grew up, my habit took a new twist, I started sleeping without dinners. How much, however my mother tried to keep me awake, my sleep didn’t wait for anyone. All those nights when I thought I didn’t have dinner, my father kept feeding me while I was asleep. There was not a single day when my father let me sleep without food.

When I entered my teens, I became stubborn and rebellious child. And all my uncanny desires were fulfilled by my father. Sometimes it was with a fight, sometimes with tears, sometimes by sarcasm, but he made my wishes come true.

My every single achievement brought glitters in his eyes, they spoke of a proud father. He pushed me to get into extra curricular activities. He taught me that life exists outside the academic curriculum. He was my keen listener, for each final debate practice of mine. He was spectator of each final dress rehearsal for my dance competition. He openly supported my reading adventures. He was the first reader for all my writing escapades. My confidence is his bequeath.

Sometimes you never know that unknowingly how much you have learned from your parents. There are so many beautiful lessons and things we unconsciously gather in our system. Its only after years that we realize that we took it from them.

I can’t describe in words how much indebted I am, for all those great advises of yours.

When I was hopeless about my career you said to me “Remember my darling, there is no substitute for hard-work, and it pays off , if not today but sure it will,do,tomorrow.” And this advice of yours has become my holy grail.

We have come a long way, from fighting for reading the newspaper in morning to having same choices in food items and sharing same favourite color.Your love for being on time has been passed on to me. Your vapour like temper has been my genetic gift. Your ambitious nature has been imparted to me.

 But yes I accept that in so many ways that I like and dislike I have taken after you daddy.

But my biggest achievement and gift of all time is “Being your daughter”. Thank you for loving me as and who I am 🙂

Happy Fathers day daddy ❤ Love you ❤

Forever and ever

Your little princess ❤

A journey of a daughter

“Behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begin.”

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Recently we all celebrated Mother’s Day with lot of zest. Making our mother feel special for a day is a great idea. Now, that I am married, I am showered with love of two mothers. I love giving surprises, so for each of my mother I did something different.  For my birth mother, I sent a small gift followed by a small wish call on phone. For my new mother, I was able to do things in much more meaningful way as she was with us on this day.

The day was a full family day. A well spent one.

As I was lying on my bed, calling sleep, I had a thought that struck me hard. We girls often say things like we want to be like our mothers, if we became even 0.1 percent like them, we would be really happy, I have got my strength from my mom, she is the best women I know etc..etc.

Do we always use to thing like this?? Were we always felt so grateful toward our mother’s??  Did we always idolized them?

For me the answer is a big NO!

Those who think that, I am being too rational or rude, I would say wait till you read me completely.

There was a time, I so much wanted, not be to be like my mother. In fact, I never liked the idea when someone compared me to her. I remember when I once said to her, I am so happy that I don’t look like you. I know that statement is such a horror on a mother’s face. When your child make you feel that your partner is superior in looks than you and he/she is grateful that they got superior genes. My mother never replied me back on that statement but years later, I realized how much painful that one statement would have been for her.

My mother is a timid woman when it comes to expressing herself, people relentlessly, dominate her. This attribute of her always irritated me. I have been witness of many such nasty situations where people overlooked her.  I once argued with her after one such bad moment, saying that “How could you allow someone to control you so much “. She was bewildered by my confrontation, but after a long pause she said “I promise you that I will never let that happen to you “. I ignored her remark, and went on with my life carelessly. Until recently, I took pride in being a person whom no one could think of messing up with, never once realizing that the seed of this confidence and belief was instilled by the woman, I called my mother.

Every mother and daughter on this earth have fought once, for reason big and small. Our relation too went through this stage once. Our major opinion difference was our taste in clothing. I always loved having too many clothes that too of latest fashion. I am not makeup or accessory person but I love stylish and fashionable clothing items whereas my mother is a classy dresser. She love simple clothes that are evergreen and don’t bother much about having lot of them. During my teenage and early twenties we never agreed on same clothing’s for me. I always considered my mother’s choice as boring until someone changed my thoughts.

It was my cousin’s wedding and all my aunts were dressed up with makeup and glittery clothes. My mother being her usual self, wore a simple saree with only a single piece of jewellery that she possess. We all were admiring the ones who have all donned up for the occasion. Suddenly my little cousin pointed me towards my mom and said “I loved the way mausi (mom’s sister) is dressed up, so simple and different from all others.” Her words made me think that being peppy and trendy doesn’t make you different, it’s you yourself, your own thoughts and mind, make you different. I realized how my mother was different and unique from all other women of our family.

After the wedding got over, one of my distant relative asked my mother who her daughter was? My mother called me and proudly said “She is my daughter”. I saw the look on the woman’s face, she looked at me with awe. This time I took full pride in being my mother’s daughter and I told her “ I am nothing like my mom, I could never be like her, because no one in the world could be like my mother”.

PS: I took birth from your womb 27 years before but I turned into your daughter the day I realized “You are the best thing that I have”