Contradictory and Confusing – Yes Indeed! This famous quote is masterfully quoted by one of the most prolific William Shakespeare in his play Hamlet. Reading this quote made me realized that we all create our own small world of perceptions.When I was a little girl, everything in the world fell into either of these two categories. Now that I have come out of that age, I have put childish things aside. And I know that most things in the world aren’t either, instead most of everything is just different. I understand that there’s nothing wrong with different, and that we can let things be different. So we should stop categorizing things, and let them have their own way. We should remember that the magic itself is neither good nor bad. It our perception that makes things looks good or bad. For example a ship might be used for both good and bad purpose. It might be used by a fisherman to feed a village and the same could be sailed by pirates to murder. It’s we Humans who decide how things are to be put together and how they are used. No one truly knows what they will do in a certain situation until they are actually in it. It’s very easy to judge someone else’s actions by what you assume your own would be, if you were in their shoes. But always keep this in your mind that “We only know what we THINK we would do, not what we WOULD do.” Take your own example: When you join an organization, you are given training on some dumpy projects to work with but when you get into a live project than the problems and challenges faced are totally different. And so our thought process gets changed with the changing working situations. Now let’s take one another example: Imagine you come upon a house painted brown. What color? Brown. But what if I came upon it from the other side, and found it to be white? You say it’s brown, and I say it’s white. Than who’s right? Are we both right .No, we’re both wrong. The house isn’t brown or white. It’s both. You and I only see one side. But that doesn’t mean the other side doesn’t exist. To not see the whole is to not see the truth. In our society, or rather our social construct, where almost all is left up to the individual’s interpretation, the line between Good and Bad seems less perceptible. But I have found certain points to satisfy my contradictions. My experience has convinced me that most people cannot discern between good and bad. And I have often seen people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. But actually this is not the case, instead it’s the circumstances that cause people to act in a certain way. It’s from those circumstances that a person’s attitude is affected followed by weakening of character. Not the reverse. We should not take so much pleasure in noticing others faults. I don’t subscribe to any particular doctrine or ideology. But just liked this line: “The good being life in its purest, happiest form, and the other being the darker side of existence of the same”. And you need to dive into the pool to know the real depth. Now let’s take a simple instance of our childhood: I use to consider my class and course to be the toughest irrespective of my standard. But now when I get the chance of showcasing my knowledge domain to Gen-Next than everything seems to be so easy. A cleared milestone is always the easiest milestone of our racing life. I can even site a very philological example for the same: “Chemistry can be a good and bad thing. Chemistry is good when you make love with it. Chemistry is bad when you make crack with it”. Being a voracious reader I had some tremendous adventures while reading. And from that experience I must say that good and bad are part of the novel, and a novel isn’t interesting if it doesn’t have some good and bad. And you don’t know what good is if bad hasn’t been a part of your life. To live a beautiful life you need to know the best and worst part of it. Even the real monsters have to have a spark of something you can relate to in order to frighten you. It’s the same thing like same film seen through different eyes and by different people can yield spectacularly different results. The review rating differs with the taste of a person. Moreover have you noticed that even with same kind of teaching tricks we do have the different effects? Each person accepts or rejects things according to their perception. What looks right now, may not be appropriate for me after few days or after few seconds. I would like to quote a few lines by a great poet Alfred Tennyson. And they go like this:
“Once in a golden hour, I cast to earth a seed, And up there grew a flower, That others called a weed.”
Now the question that pop’s up in your mind is: How can we ever achieve a standard that everyone can agree on? How could we stop judging other’s life? How do we all agree on the same point when we come from different cultures, have different personalities etc? Is it really possible to do so? If not that what is the answer to this conflict? The answer is a very simple and easy one, you just need to understand it and apply it consciously in your own life. Spend your precious time thinking about yourself rather than wasting it in criticizing others. Think more about your self and you will get the answer of every query arising in your head. So whenever you face a conflict with any of your colleagues, friends or family members just remind yourself that you two are different people. And say it to yourself that “I don’t judge people. It blurs out the center of my attention, my focus, I”. It’s okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn’t give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don’t like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable. So if it’s so important for you to make them understand your point of view and you want to bring every one in the group to come to similar conclusion than do not judge them. Keep your self away from conclusions, not everything can be concluded. We should leave everything wide open to all the possibilities in the world. When you see people only as personalities, rather than souls with life missions to fulfill, you forever limit the growth and possibilities of what God has in store for another person thus causing a barrier in the growth of human race. So next time when you have the chance to pass a statement against someone or something than pause, think and remember: “You will be a beautiful person, as long as you see the beauty in others”.
Happy reading 🙂